Call me a frigid witch with a B, but I have a bridal shower policy. See, when I was an undergrad, I went through a period of time when I was receiving way too many bridal shower invitations, many for girls who I hardly had any connection to at all. Now, everyone knows that no one goes to a bridal shower for the games. People go to bridal showers under obligation. And they are obligated to bring a shower gift.
Particularly for a student, having to attend many bridal showers causes serious financial strain. And particularly for a single-with-a-bleak-hope-of-ever-getting-married student, the idea of buying kitchen gadgets for others when you don't have enough money to buy cool gadgets for yourself, isn't appealing at all.
So I developed a bridal shower policy to weed out people who were only gift-grabbing. Now that I am out of school and gainfully employed, I might revise this policy, but who are we kidding? Feel free to adopt this policy as your own, if you feel that you are attending too many bridal showers.
1. I must have, at some point in my life, considered the person a friend. Not an acquaintance. Not a friend of a family member's. Not a roommate who I never really liked. A real friend.
2. I must have hung out with that friend at least once. A friend who was a school class friend or a work friend does not qualify. We must have, at some point, decided to hang out together independently of class or work.
3. I must have spoken to or spent time with that friend within the last year. This is the hardest to enforce, because sometimes I'd get invitations from freshman friends who I really did like at the time, but I'd remind myself that if our friendship wasn't strong enough to have precipitated some sort of contact over the past year, then it's not good enough for a bridal shower. If you want to get a gift from me, you'd better care about me enough to talk to me within a year of your bridal shower.